December 15, 2022

Let Go of What You're Holding

Last week, after having run errands all morning and returned to the house with arms full, I realized that my keys were safely nestled in the zipped pocket on the inside of my winter jacket. I stared at the doorknob, felt the pressure of the keys on my chest, and said to myself, "Of course." And, like nearly everyone else in this situation, I tried to unzip my coat, hold the storm door open with my knee, and retrieve my keys. It didn't go well. Right before the grocery bag tore down the middle, I wisely decided to put all the bags down and step away from the door. I needed to let go of what I was holding.

This is a full week. From the exciting news of a breakthrough in the study of nuclear fusion or the celebrations of the World Cup, to the mournful remembrance of the shooting at Sandy Hook in Newtown, CT ten years ago or the more intimate moments of challenge or sadness (which often happen during holiday seasons). 

This is a full week. On Tuesday, Rev. Bob invited us into a space to care for one another as we experience such grief. Wednesday night the vestry gathered to discern our ministry and mission for this coming year and approve a budget. This Saturday the Parish Choir and Chorister gather to practice and prepare for the Christmas celebrations ahead. In Atlanta, at 2:00 pm on Saturday, Janelle Hiroshige will be ordained a deacon, as she responds to God's call in her life. On Sunday, we welcome the American Friends of the Episcopal Diocese of Jerusalem at the Adult Forum to explore the homeland of Jesus and our longing for peace and home in this world. At 5:00 pm on Sunday evening we celebrate our festive Lessons and Carols service, in a sanctuary adorned by the Flower Guild and prepared by the Altar Guild; after the service we have a festive reception together — a wonderful way to enter more deeply into Advent, towards Christmas. Just sharing all that is happening this week makes us realize, our arms are full. Full of wonderful and beautiful and, maybe, heavy things.

I'm reminded that it is good to carry such things. And, there comes a time to set these things down. Maybe when the work is finished, the songs are sung, the relationships tended, the call heard. To let go, reminds us that we can't do everything ourselves; indeed, we are not the center of it all. We need help opening the door or are invited to set something down to take another up. This Advent season, this week, is full — but let it not be about busy-ness or distraction, checking-lists, or getting wrapped up in the worry of a perfect "whatever". Advent and the celebration of Christmas is about this: we are not alone, God is with us, this sacred life rests in God's embrace — no matter what we carry.

Happy Advent friends. See you Sunday,


Watch Janelle's Ordination to Diaconate

This Sunday at 2:00 pm in Atlanta, Janelle Hiroshige will be ordained to the diaconate, as she responds to God's call in her life. Support Janelle by watching her ordination here. Our heartfelt congratulations to Janelle! 


Advent Adult Forum: Longing for Home

Join Rev. Nick this Sunday, December 18 at 11:15 am for the last session of our Advent forum series exploring our place in this world and our sense of longing for home and belonging. This Sunday, we welcome the American Friends of the Episcopal Diocese of Jerusalem.


Candlelight Festival of Lessons & Carols

All are welcome this Sunday, December 18 at 5:00 pm for Epiphany's annual Candlelight Festival of Nine Lessons and Carols. A holiday favorite, this service of scripture and music centers on the mystery of the Incarnation. Sung by the Parish Choir and Choristers, this service also features the Triton Brass Quintet. The service will also be livestreamed via Epiphany's YouTube channel. Festive reception to follow at 6:30 pm in Hadley Hall. 


Lessons & Carols Reception

Sign Up to Help with Reception

Following our service of Lessons & Carols on Sunday, December 18, all are invited to festive reception! Please click here to sign-up to help. 


Christmas Worship at Epiphany

Celebrate our Savior’s birth with Christmas worship at Parish of the Epiphany! On Christmas Eve on Saturday, December 24, we will offer three services: a family service with our children’s pageant at 4:00 pm, as well as Choral Eucharists at 7:00 pm and 10:00 pm. (Please note that the 10:00 pm service will include incense.) On Sunday, December 25, join us at 10:00 am on Christmas Day for a Choral Eucharist. 


Christmas Pageant Sign-Up

Sign Your Child Up for the Pageant!

Our Christmas pageant will be on Christmas Eve at the 4:00 pm worship service. Please click here to sign your child up to participate in the pageant and to indicate their preferred role. We will hold our final rehearsal at 3:00 pm on Christmas Eve. All are welcome!


Stewardship Update: Thank You
(And to Those Who Haven't Yet Pledged,
We Need You!)

Pledge Online

As of December 13, 208 households have pledged $1,052,7853. We have officially exceeded 2022’s pledge total. Thank you to all of you!

To those who have not pledged, we hope to increase the number of parishioners who pledge and thereby support our operating budget (I am sure you are tired of reading the various ways that I tell you that 90% of our operating budget is funded your indication of how much you will contribute in 2023 … ie. your ‘pledge’). Key note: a pledge indicates what you will give sometime before December 31, 2023… it is not a payment that you need to make today.  If you are willing to help support our budget next year, pledge some amount so that we can reflect your commitment in our budget (people pledge amounts that range from $100 to over $25,000).

Whatever your response, we are grateful for everyone’s presence in our life and ministry in all the many ways that you join in.  


Stewardship Campaign Progress


Christmas Parish Office Closure &
December 29th 3 Crowns Deadline

Please note that the parish office will be closed from Friday, December 23, 2022 through Monday, January 2, 2023 for Christmas. The office will reopen at 9:00 am on Tuesday, January 3. 

Please note that any submissions for the December 29th issue of 3 Crowns must be sent to Kathryn in the office no later than Monday, December 19. Thank you, and a very Merry Christmas from the staff of Parish of the Epiphany! 


January Birthdays

Do you have a birthday or anniversary during the month of January that you would like remembered in 3 Crowns and the Sunday bulletin? If so, please send the details to Kathryn in the parish office by Monday, December 19


Deadlines of Note Regarding Year-End

December 31 is approaching and we want you to be aware of various processing deadlines for check requests, pledge payments, and other gifts. If you don’t find the answer to your question below, please be in touch with Maryann Badejo, Epiphany’s Financial Administrator, or Treasurers Jane White or Bill Brickman.

In order to receive proper tax credit, gifts and pledge payments must be postmarked (if mailed), received in the plate or in the office (if hand delivered), received in Epiphany’s investment account (if a gift of appreciated stock), or input from home via Realm by December 31 to be recorded as a 2022 gift. If you wish, 2022 pledge payments made after these deadlines can still be applied as a “prior year pledge payment” until the end of January 2023. 

Broker instructions for transferring gifts of securities are available from Kathryn in the parish office, Maryann, Jane, or Bill

To allow us to close the financial year efficiently, parish leaders and staff should aim to submit check requests for reimbursement or payment of bills by December 15. We will make every effort to process the rare expense that requires 2022 accounting after December 15. As always, check request forms are available in the office and at A list of account numbers and titles is available in both places for your convenience in completing check requests.

Please note as well that the office will be closed during the week of December 26 to allow the staff a well-deserved break. However, we will be checking the locked mailboxes outside the Hadley Hall and parish office doors for material that needs to be processed that week.

If you have any questions at all, please do not hesitate to be in touch with Maryann, Jane or Bill. We are grateful for your ongoing support for Epiphany and extend our warmest wishes for a peaceful and holy Advent and Christmas season.


Advent Giving Tree Is Here

Advent is here and the Giving Trees are back in church with opportunities to join in Epiphany’s gift ministry. One is at the back of Hadley Hall and one in front of the church nave. The trees are covered with tags describing suggested donations to be made to organizations supported by Mission & Outreach. Please take tags from the trees and follow the instructions to make donations by the date indicated. In addition, the information on the tree tags appears below and you can simply make your donation, as described, without collecting a tag. Your prayerful support of our partners, and the families they serve, would be greatly appreciated during this Christmas giving season.

St. Luke’s/San Lucas Church, Chelsea
Purchase a $20 Target gift card to be given to a child at the St. Luke’s Christmas Eve service. Put all cards to be donated into an envelope labeled “St. Luke’s” and place in the gift card collection box in the Epiphany office by Wednesday, 12/21.

Council of Social Concern, Woburn:
Purchase gift cards (value $10 to $100) from Target, Walmart, Kohl’s, Gamestop, Amazon, Visa, or Mastercard. Note the value on the cards and put them in the gift card collection box in the Epiphany Office. Cards returned by Thursday, 12/8 will be donated to individual families to buy Christmas gifts. Late cards will go to the Children’s Center classrooms.

St. Stephen’s Youth Program, South End Boston:
Purchase a $20 Target gift card to be given to a child at the St. Stephen’s Christmas Eve service. Put each gift card in a signed Christmas card with “St. Stephen’s” on the envelope and place in the gift card collection box in the Epiphany office by Wednesday, 12/21.

Blackstone School Library, South End: 
Order requested children’s books from a wish list supported by Bookends in Winchester here.Bring the books to Hadley Hall and a volunteer will deliver them to the Library, or just order a book and a volunteer will bring any books not picked up to Blackstone.

El Hogar Ministries, Honduras: Donate directly to El Hogar here.

Haiti Nursing Foundation: Donate directly to the Haiti Nursing Foundation here

Mosaic: Interfaith Youth Action (formerly Kids 4 Peace Boston): 
Donate directly here.

Quest Adventures, Boston: Donate directly to Quest here.

Network for Social Justice, Winchester: 
Donate directly here.

American Friends of the Episcopal Diocese of Jerusalem: Donate directly here.


Help with Fellowship Hour This Winter

Sign Up to Help with Fellowship Hour

We are looking forward to fellowship hours on Sundays in December and January, and would greatly appreciate your help! Please click on the button above to contribute a baked good, a gluten-free snack, fresh fruit, or your help with serving and clean-up. 


Midwinter @ Epiphany: January 4

Join us on Wednesday, January 4 for a special Midwinter @ Epiphany! At 6:15 pm, we will offer cocoa, grilled cheese, and tomato soup, with seating in Hadley Hall and warming fires in the Cloister Garden. At 7:00 pm, we will celebrate the end of the Christmas season with a burning of the greens. Please grab your boots and join us!


Sunday Ministries Training Day

Are you interested in serving as an acolyte, reader, LEM (Lay Eucharistic Minister), or usher? Join us on January 8 following the 10:00 am service from 11:15 am -12:15 pm in the sanctuary for our training day. 


Exploring Our Faith: Grades 6-12 Invited!

All youth (6th-12th grade) are invited to Exploring our Faith, Sundays after the 10:00 am service from February 5 - April 2 (skipping February 19). For those interested in being confirmed (must be 10th grade or older), these classes will be required and fulfill all confirmation qualifications. Please email Janelle if you are interested in being confirmed. Pizza will be provided! 


Youth Hut Hike

Save the date for our Youth Hut Hike trip on June 26-28 in the White Mountains of New Hampshire. We will have a guide from the Appalachian Mountain Club and this will be an opportunity for community building while enjoying God’s creation. Interested? Email Janelle.


Epiphany Environmental Justice Partners

Creation Care is striving to make Epiphany a sustainable community. As always, outreach is part of what Epiphany does. The following are four Environmental Justice organizations and their websites that have made a real difference in sustaining our world, and we want you to know that you have supported them through the Creation Care group and through direct parishioner involvement. They are:

Green RootsGreenRoots is a community-based organization dedicated to community engagement and empowerment, youth leadership and innovative projects to improve and enhance the urban environment in Chelsea and East Boston.

The Conversation Law Foundation (CLF): The CLF creates and defends environmental policy by pressuring federal and state agencies to enforce environmental justice laws.  

350 Mass Action
350 Mass Action is building a powerful statewide movement to transition to a just, equitable, and clean energy economy.

Alternative for Community and Environment (ACE): 
ACE is a Roxbury-based environmental justice development nonprofit that organizes neighborhood residents and works with community organizers to build platforms and offer resources that address systemic injustice. 


This Week's Calendar

Click here to access the complete parish calendar.

Thursday, December 15

5:30pm Men's Group via Zoom 
7:00pm Healing Prayer via Zoom

7:30pm Parish Choir Rehearsal in the Upper Parish Hall 
7:30pm Healing Ministry Team Meeting via Zoom 

9:00pm Compline via Zoom 

Saturday, December 17

8:30am Brass Rehearsal for Lessons & Carols in the Sanctuary 
9:00am Parish Choir Rehearsal for Lessons & Carols in the Sanctuary 

Sunday, December 18

8:00am Holy Eucharist: Rite I in the Sanctuary 
9:00am Bible Study in the Suter Room

9:00am Fellowship Hour in Hadley Hall 

9:00am Parish Choir Warm-up in the Sanctuary

10:00am Holy Eucharist: Rite II in the Sanctuary and via YouTube 

10:00am Church School in the Upper Parish Hall and Suter Room

11:15am Fellowship Hour in Hadley Hall
11:15am Longing for Home: Advent Adult Forum in Hadley Hall
11:15am Christmas Pageant Rehearsal in the Sanctuary 
11:15am Pageant Costuming in the Chapel
5:00pm Candlelight Festival of Lessons & Carols in the Sanctuary 
6:30pm Festive Reception in Hadley Hall 

Monday, December 19

6:00pm AA Meeting in Hadley Hall 
7:30pm AA Meeting in Hadley Hall 

Tuesday, December 20

8:00am Holy Eucharist in the Chapel
8:30am Bible Study in the Suter Room

8:30am Employment Transition Group via Zoom

10:00am Staff Meeting in the Suter Room

1:00pm Pastoral Care Meeting in the Rector's Study 
7:30pm Mission and Outreach Committee Meeting in the Suter Room

Wednesday, December 21

11:00am Prayer and Communion Service at The Gables 
5:15pm Choristers Holiday Party in the Upper Parish Hall 

Thursday, December 22

7:00pm Healing Prayer via Zoom

7:30pm Parish Choir Rehearsal in the Upper Parish Hall 

9:00pm Compline via Zoom 


For More Information

For pastoral emergencies, please contact Rev. Nick by dialing 781-729-1922 Ext. 5. 
Click to view our Family Newsletter for parents, youth, and children. 
Click to find information on our worship services
Click to learn more if you are new to Epiphany.
Sign-up for online pledge payments here.


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