March 24, 2022

Where is God in the Face of Grief?

Grief: Great sorrow, especially that caused by death.
Grace: The free and unmerited favor of God.

Where is God in the face of grief? Have you recently experienced God’s grace? These questions that Rev. Nick asks us to reflect upon this Lent are ones that I have been turning over in my mind. 

My friend Chris Marrion died suddenly on December 30 of last year. Those of us who knew and loved him are still reeling from this loss. Chris was one of those friends who “got me” — I could just be myself with him and vice versa. His absence over the past months has only added to this sense of isolation I’ve been sitting with for so long. I’ve written before that our faith reminds us that God shows up, we just have to notice. I’ll admit that I’ve struggled to see God in the midst of this grief.

Chris’ memorial service was held on March 12, and his husband Randy asked me to plan the music for it. Chris and I were musical colleagues as well as friends, and I knew that he particularly loved art song and opera. So, I got to work and selected a combination of pre-recorded and live music, each chosen with specific purpose and meaning. Along the way, I offered to take on creating the service bulletin, obsessing about every revision, making sure every detail was covered, working with the technical team at the church where the service was being held to ensure that the pre-recorded materials would be available not only to those in person but also to those attending via Zoom, and so on.

Clearly, this was my way of showing how much I loved Chris, and yet, for one reason or another, every step of the journey to the day of the service felt as though I was pushing a boulder up a mountain. Why was this so hard? Why was I so frustrated? Was everyone else’s grief part of a larger puzzle? Were we each pushing our own boulders to the point where we couldn’t see anything or anyone else?  

Grace within my grief finally arrived on the day of the memorial service. Witnessing and participating in the love and care Chris’ family and friends showed each other through our collective grief was that grace. Whether through the service bulletin, the prepared prayers and remarks, the remembrances, the music, the flowers, or the reception, we showed our love. And it reminds me how important funerals and memorial services are to the grieving process.

God showed up, in community, connection, remembrance and grief, and I noticed. For that I’m grateful.

Where is God in the face of grief? Have you recently experienced God’s grace?

Dave McSweeney, warden


POSTPONED: Youth Stargazing Event

Please note that the youth stargazing event scheduled for this Friday has been postponed to a weekend in April due to weather. We will be putting forth a new date and rain date soon. You can fill out this interest form to stay in the loop for this event, or reach out to Eva Dalzell with any questions.


Communion Enrichment Retreat
This Weekend

This Saturday children participating in our Communion Enrichment program will gather with a parent, Nick, and Bryn for a time of preparation and fun, from 9:00 - 11:00 am in Hadley Hall. We ask that children participating in this program also arrive in the Sanctuary on Sunday at 9:35 am, as we prepare for our  special 10:00 am service of worship.


Communion Enrichment Sunday and
Baptisms on March 27

Join us on Sunday, March 27 for a festive 10:00 am service as we celebrate those young ones among us who have participated in our Communion Enrichment program, as well as those being baptized or preparing for Confirmation. 


Lenten Sunday Series
Grief and Grace: Healing Together

Join Rev. Nick and Dr. Brian Litzenberger in Hadley Hall each Sunday during the season of Lent after the 10:00 am service for a forum series that will help us explore the many feelings of grief and loss and disorientation that we've experienced through the pandemic. Nick and Brian will host conversations to engage both the theology and practice of moving from trauma to healing. These sessions are open to all ages, as Dr. Litzenberger is particularly engaged with parents, youth and young people in his practice. 


April Birthdays and Anniversaries

Do you have a birthday or anniversary during the month of April that you would like remembered in 3 Crowns and the Sunday bulletin? If so, please send the details to Kathryn in the parish office by Sunday, March 27.


Easter Candy Needed for St. Luke's

At our next Midweek gathering on March 30, the children will be helping to fill Easter eggs and Easter bags with candy for our friends at St. Luke's in Chelsea. We'll need lots of candy to make this happen!

Will you donate a bag or two of individually wrapped Easter candy for this outreach project? Any kind of candy is welcome — we just ask that it be wrapped, so our children can sort it into eggs and bags with no worry about germs. (And maybe less candy accidently "falling" into mouths during our work!) 

Please leave this candy (marked St. Luke's) in the church office or hand it right to Bryn. THANK YOU!


Midweek @ Epiphany on March 30

All are invited to our next Midweek @ Epiphany on Wednesday, March 30. Dinner will be offered from 6:15 - 7:00 pm, with seating available in Hadley Hall and the Cloister Garden. This week's menu includes baked ham, scalloped potatoes, salad (vegetarian), rolls (vegetarian), pizza for the kids, and warm cookies. From 7:00 - 7:30 pm, join us for Bible study with Rev. Nick in Upper Parish Hall and creative art and music programming for children with Bryn and Jeremy in Hadley Hall. 


Tapestry Restoration Update

We are pleased to announce that we have achieved our fundraising goal of $42,000 to cover the cost of the conservation of Epiphany's tapestries. Thank you very much for your financial support! Thank you also to the members of Epiphany's Altar Guild who helped coordinate the process.

If you missed the presentation on the background of the tapestries and the steps taken to date, please see attached slides from the presentation.

The tapestries will be delivered to Museum Textile Services this week to begin the conservation process.  We plan to share updates and photos of the work as it progresses. The conservation work should be completed by April 2023.

We are very grateful for your support of this centerpiece of our sacred space.


Cultural Awareness: Our Afghan Neighbors Will Observe Ramadan in April


Sunrise, Eid 2018. Photo by Abdullah Mukadam on Unsplash.

Did you know that our Afghan neighbors will observe Ramadan beginning on April 2, 2022? Ramadan is the ninth month of the Muslim calendar, based on the cycles of the moon. Each month begins and ends when the crescent moon is sighted after sundown and lasts 29 or 30 days. So from our Western point of view, Ramadan can occur in any month of the year!

During this holy month, Islam calls for believers to fast, pray, reflect on their faith, and prioritize charitable giving. Most Muslims over the age of about 12 don’t eat or drink anything, even water, from sunrise to sunset each day, although children, pregnant women, travelers, and anyone who is ill are exempt from this requirement. Traditionally families rise before dawn to eat a hearty meal together. At sundown, the fast is broken at a meal called iftar, often shared with friends, neighbors, and other community members.

The great feast day that concludes this month of fasting is Eid al Fitr, and the festivities may continue for several days. Children may receive gifts or new clothes for the occasion, and good meals are a key part of the celebration.

WIRP and our partners from the Islamic Center of Boston are planning an Eid celebration at Epiphany on May 7, gathering Afghans evacuated from their country in August 2022 who have resettled in the Boston area. If you’d like to help, email the Reverend Bob Davidson,

Please watch for new opportunities to support the Rawans here and in future newsletters.

Holy Week Worship Schedule

We invite you to join us for Holy Week at Parish of the Epiphany! 


Celebration of New Ministry:
Welcoming Rev. Nick as Rector

Join us on Tuesday, May 3 at 6:00 pm for a grand celebration as Bishop Alan Gates leads us in a worship service to welcome Rev. Nick as our eleventh rector. It will be an evening of celebration, song, and good food. More details to come.


Summer Camp: Barbara C. Harris Camp

We’re thrilled to announce that camp is back for summer 2022. Summer Camps at BCH are inclusive Christian formation ministries and open to families, campers 4th-12th grades. If you are interested, please visit BCH's website here


Playspace Toy Donations Wanted

St. Stephen's Youth Programs (SSYP), one of our Mission and Outreach organizations, is creating a playspace for children (ages 5-10 years old) in their afterschool program. They are looking for the following, in new or gently used condition: 

  • pans / dishes / food items for a play kitchen
  • veterinary clinic / doctor's office items — tools, stuffed animals (clean and like new), doctor / vet outfits
  • puppet theater / puppets
  • dress up clothes / costumes
  • dolls / doll clothes / doll accessories (racially diverse dolls preferred)
  • cars / trucks — both large and small
  • wooden train set
  • building toys — blocks (wood, magnetic), marble runs, gears, no Legos please (we have lots)
  • bracelet making materials — beads, thread
  • craft kits for groups of kids

If you would like to donate something new, click here for our Amazon wishlist. If you would like to donate something gently used, please contact me at 781-249-6554 or I am happy to pick up items in and near Winchester.

Thank you so much!
Betsy Walsh


This Week's Calendar

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Thursday, March 24

12:45pm Contemplative Book Discussion in the Suter Room

5:30pm Men's Group via Zoom 

7:00pm Healing Prayer via Zoom 
7:30pm Parish Choir Rehearsal in the Upper Parish Hall 

7:30pm Contemplative Book Discussion via Zoom

7:30pm Healing Ministry Team Meeting via Zoom 

9:00pm Compline via Zoom 

Friday, March 25

6:00pm Youth Stargazing Event at Whipple Hill in Winchester 

Saturday, March 26

9:00am Communion Enrichment Saturday in Hadley Hall, Chapel, and Sanctuary

Sunday, March 27

8:00 am Holy Eucharist in the Sanctuary
9:00am Bible Study in the Suter Room 
9:00am Fellowship Hour in Hadley Hall 
9:00am Parish Choir Warm-up in the Sanctuary 
10:00am Holy Eucharist in the Sanctuary, Hadley Hall, and via YouTube 
11:15am Communion Enrichment Reception in Hadley Hall

11:15am High School Youth Group in the Garret and via Zoom  

11:30am Grief and Grace: Healing Together in the Upper Parish Hall 

12:00pm Confirmation in the Garret and via Zoom 

5:30pm Middle School Youth Group in the Garret and via Zoom

Monday, March 28

6:00pm AA Meeting in Hadley Hall

7:30pm AA Meeting in Hadley Hall

7:30pm Sustainability and Creation Care Group Meeting in the Upper Parish Hall 

Tuesday, March 29

8:30am Employment Transition Group via Zoom 

9:00am Midweek Dinner Preparation in the Kitchen 

9:30am Staff Meeting in the Suter Room 

Wednesday, March 30

6:15pm Midweek @ Epiphany in Hadley Hall, Cloister Garden, and Upper Parish Hall 

Thursday, March 31

12:45pm Contemplative Book Discussion in the Suter Room

5:30pm Men's Group via Zoom 

7:00pm Healing Prayer via Zoom 
7:30pm Parish Choir Rehearsal in the Upper Parish Hall 

7:30pm Contemplative Book Discussion via Zoom

9:00pm Compline via Zoom 


For More Information

For pastoral emergencies, please contact Rev. Nick by dialing 781-729-1922 Ext. 5. 
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